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Welcome to our blog. Here we will share useful information with you on topics ranging from funeral planning and cremation to positive living and grief support.

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Cremation Society or Funeral Home

Published: May 17, 2019

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Cremation, like electric cars and cell phones is here to stay. For some people cremation is part of their religious practice. For other people, cremation just feels right for them.  The big question is who should help you with your cremation, a society or a funeral director?

Cremation Societies specialize in what is called a direct cremation. Direct cremation means the society will remove the deceased from the place of death and take the body directly to their crematory where the cremation process will take place. Following cremation, the ashes are returned to the family in a bag or box. It’s all pretty quick. The cost is quite low for direct cremation.

But something is missing.

How do we feel when a family member dies? What helps? Death is a loss. It is hard to describe how loss feels, but it is something like a void, a vacuum, or an energy shift.  You see something close when you watch victims of the California wild fires or a tornado on television. You see that dazed and stunned look on their faces. That is loss.  There they stand looking at a pile of rubble that was their home … and now it is gone.  That look is about loss of a building. Loss of a person, someone you love, is so much more. It hurts your heart.

Funeral directors are trained and specialize in taking care of the deceased AND in taking care of the family of the deceased. They know people need more. They are going to encourage you to slow down a little and give the family a little time for the reality of the loss to sink in. Give a little time for the family to consider what they need to do to begin to heal. 

Funeral directors specialize in helping families put together a gathering to honor the one who died. They know that being with those you love and who love you helps. They know words, as a part of a religious, spiritual, or life celebration ceremony help. Funerals are the funeral director’s specialty. They have done this many times with many families.  Funeral directors are the experts.

Of course, the funeral home will help you with a direct cremation if that is what your family prefers. To be fair, cremation societies will also add on some service options at the family’s request. As you add services the cost increases. It is important to look for value.

The funeral home is staffed by licensed trained funeral directors and serves families from a clean, company ready facility with plenty of parking and is a good value. Do your homework. Where will cremation take place? If your family wants service where will the service take place? If you add service and products what is the difference in price?  How important is cost over expertise? Share your budget with the funeral director at your funeral home. Don’t assume you need to sacrifice ceremony for savings.

Mother's Day

Published: May 10, 2019

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Mothers come in all shapes, colors, and sizes. There are tall moms, short moms, thin moms, and moms with soft edges. There are single moms, moms with partners and moms with husbands. Moms are an indispensable part of our existence. They literally keep the human species from becoming extinct. Hooray for Moms! Today is their day!

There are different ways to become a mother, but there really is no training program for being a mom. Most moms will tell you they had no idea what they were getting into. The job requires that one learns as one goes. On the job training.

There are a few how to parent books that may be helpful. Then there is always the option of getting advice from another mother or even your own mother. But, when all is said and done, it is the mom who decides. Moms decide what their children eat, what they wear, and when they sleep. Then one day the decision maker dynamics change.  This change comes when the child develops a mind of his own. Children typically begin to come into their own mind beginning at about age three and believe themselves to know all by age 12. Then a mother prays.

Moms are always “moming” no matter how old their children become, no matter how many degrees they get or how smart they are, no matter they are moms themselves. Being a mom is a forever job.

Once you have a child you never really sleep soundly again. Oh, and yes, moms do have eyes in the back of their heads. They grow in when their child begins to crawl. They stay fully functional for the life of the mother. Some mothers are able to put blinders on those eyes once a child becomes self-supporting, but other moms just keep watching forever! Moms are wonderful but never perfect, you know.

So, how do you say thank you for all of that? It really doesn’t take a lot. Mothers are notoriously easy to please. A call, a card, dinner out, flowers. It’s pretty easy to please a mom. Don’t forget, May 12 is MOTHER’S DAY. Send her your love!

Our dog died and my family wants to get a new one. Why?

Published: May 3, 2019

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When a beloved pet dies, the death leaves a void in its human owner’s life. There will be no jumping, wagging greeting waiting for them when they come home. Every pet owner knows there are days when the walk, or cleaning the litter, is more dreaded than enjoyed. But when the chore is gone, they feel the loss. Sure, they have their popcorn all to themselves. But they miss their fur friend. They miss those expectant eyes looking up at them waiting for a kernel of the human treat. Their pet is gone and it is missed!

So, what about getting a new dog? Getting new dog or cat is not for everyone. But for some pet lovers, that void, the hole in their life, is unbearable. They seek to fill the hole. They need that fur baby to take for a walk, to feed, to talk to, to sleep on their feet, to be glad they are home. 

Fair warning to the mourning owner, a new pet is not a replacement for the beloved pet that has passed. Just as when we lose a human family member, the individual cannot be replaced. The pet that died was unique, one of a kind. There will never be another cat or dog just like your fur friend. For those who need to get a new dog, or cat, or bird, or snake, it’s the role the pet played in their life they seek to fill. There is just a need to fill the hole death has left in their life. 

The pet who passed isn’t forgotten. People who have had multiple pets have a whole string of memories and stories. Those memories stay. They are with them always.

Pets enrich our lives. So, for some the need to have a new pet is almost immediate.  Others need more time. Some fill the hole in another way entirely. Try not to judge the needs of a family member when their desire to get a new pet is out of sync with yours. Do your best to understand.

September 10, 2018 | 0 Comments | Category: Honoring

15 POEMS AND QUOTES TO HONOR GRANDPARENTS THIS GRANDPARENTS DAY

Compiled by Jenny Goldade

With Grandparents Day approaching this coming Sunday, we wanted to share some inspirational poems and quotes to honor grandparents.

These touching sayings can help us grieve and honor grandparents who are no longer physically with us, but forever in our hearts.

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GRANDPARENTS — UNKNOWN

Grandparents bestow upon

their grandchildren

The strength and wisdom that time

And experience have given them.

Grandchildren bless their Grandparents

With a youthful vitality and innocence

That help them stay young at heart forever.

Together they create a chain of love

Linking the past with the future

The chain may lengthen,

But it will never part…


WE HAD A WONDERFUL GRANDFATHER — UNKNOWN

We had a wonderful grandfather,

One who never really grew old;

His smile was made of sunshine,

And his heart was solid gold;

His eyes were as bright as shining stars,

And in his cheeks fair roses you see.

We had a wonderful grandfather,

And that’s the way it will always be,

But take heed, because

He’s still keeping an eye on all of us,

So let’s make sure

He will like what he sees


OUR GRANDDAD — UNKNOWN

It broke our hearts to lose you,

But you never went alone,

For a part of us went with you,

The day god took you home.

A million times we missed you,

A million times we cried,

If love could have saved you,

You never would have died.

To the grave you travel,

Our flowers placed with care,

No-one knows the heartache,

as we turn to leave you there.

Read the rest of the poem here.

MY LOVING GRANDMOTHER — NIVEDEETA PEREIRA

When I had no shoulder to lean on,

And my eyes were filled with tears.

I had my Nana to count on,

to drive away my fears.

Despite all the wrong I’d done,

When the light I couldn’t see,

Nana was my shining sun,

who gently consoled me.

She always encouraged and inspired me,

to follow my every dream,

she’d tell me that I was not alone,

cause she was my team. 

Read the rest of the poem here.


God Saw You Getting Tired — Unknown

God saw you getting tired

and a cure was not to be

so he put his arms around you

and whispered,


Come to Me.

With tearful eyes we watch you

and saw you pass away

and although we loved you dearly

we could not make you stay.

A Golden heart stopped beating

hard working hands at rest.

God broke our hearts to prove us

he only takes the best.

Inspirational Quotes

We gathered a collection of quotes to honor grandparents and remember the love they gave:

“Grandparents are a delightful blend of laughter, caring deeds, wonderful stories, and love.” — Unknown

“Between the earth and the sky above, nothing can match a grandmother’s love.” — Unknown

“Grandparents hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever.” — Unknown 

“Sometimes our grandmas and grandpas are like grand-angels.” — Lexie Saige

“Grandparents make the world a little softer, a little kinder, a little warmer.” — Unknown 

“There’s nothing more wonderful than the love and guidance a grandparent can give his or her grandchild.” — Edward Fays 

“My grandmother once said that grief is the price we pay for love.” ­— Prince William

“Some of the world’s best educators are grandparents.” — Charles W. Shedd

“A garden of love grows in a grandmother’s heart.” — Unknown

“A grandfather is someone with silver in his hair and gold in his heart.” — Unknown

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