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What Funeral Directors Do

Published: January 16, 2019

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It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

Today, there was a funeral. People cried. Tissues were crumpled and left on the tables.  Flower petals fell to the floor. Now, the cleaning staff is making things tidy for the family who will be here tomorrow.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

Someone in our town died away from home, the funeral director is traveling many miles to bring him home and into the funeral home’s care. The light is on in anticipation of his safe return.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

Hospice called. The teacher who taught the funeral director -- and you -- in the third grade isn’t expected to make it through the night. He’s catching up on paperwork while he keeps vigil. Soon he’ll be called to the home and it will be his turn to take care of the teacher.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

There are computer problems. The video tribute file a family sent won’t work. We’re staying late to make it right for their service.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

It was a busy day today and we still need to notify Social Security and the Veteran’s Administration of Mr. Smith’s death.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

There’s been a terrible accident. We’re doing our best to make a loved one presentable so that they can say goodbye with dignity.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

The obituary the Jones’s gave us for their father is full of misspellings. We need to correct them and get it to the paper.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

We’re reviewing all of the details for tomorrow’s service. When will the celebrant arrive? Do we have drivers for the cars? Who will be the pallbearers?

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

We’re checking tomorrow’s weather in case we need the umbrellas.

 

It’s late, why is the light on at the funeral home?

The light is on because your neighbor, the funeral director, is pacing the floor. He can’t sleep. Tomorrow, he will oversee the service for his daughter’s classmate. Sometimes death is just too close, even for him.

When Your Parent Loses Their Spouse

Published: January 8, 2019

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“And the two shall be as one” just rolls off our tongue. But think about it. What does it mean to the one who lives when their partner has died? Are they now a half? Families are interesting in that we tend to “know” our family member as their role relates to us. Mom is mom, dad is dad. We kids typically don’t really see the couple side, or the work side, or the friend side of our parents. 

So how must it feel to lose your life partner? Try to step into your parent’s shoes. Pretty quickly in a marriage the jobs are assigned. She does the laundry, he cooks the dinner, she manages the household budget, and he manages the retirement plan. Sure, they have separate interests but look at all those shared interests. Are they lost with this death? What happens to their couple activities?  Do friends still invite them for bridge or to join the bowling team when they become a single? Life changes drastically when death parts a couple.

If your parent begins to date, it is not so easy to move from your point of view to understanding and accepting theirs. For a child it may feel too soon, like your living parent is replacing your deceased parent. Perhaps this new wife or husband is stepping in a way that you thought you would. She is going to the doctor’s appointments with dad or cooking dad dinner when you expected to fill that role. He is mowing mom’s lawn with dad’s lawn mower no less! It’s hard.

Consider working on changing the way you look at this budding relationship.  How hard would it be to live as a half when you have been married for 35, 50, or even 60 years? Maybe this new relationship is a search for the happiness they had with your deceased parent? Try to understand that as we age, time really is limited and precious. And honestly…maybe they can’t wait. Maybe they need a partner, or another half, to be whole again.

September 10, 2018 | 0 Comments | Category: Honoring

15 POEMS AND QUOTES TO HONOR GRANDPARENTS THIS GRANDPARENTS DAY

Compiled by Jenny Goldade

With Grandparents Day approaching this coming Sunday, we wanted to share some inspirational poems and quotes to honor grandparents.

These touching sayings can help us grieve and honor grandparents who are no longer physically with us, but forever in our hearts.

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GRANDPARENTS — UNKNOWN

Grandparents bestow upon

their grandchildren

The strength and wisdom that time

And experience have given them.

Grandchildren bless their Grandparents

With a youthful vitality and innocence

That help them stay young at heart forever.

Together they create a chain of love

Linking the past with the future

The chain may lengthen,

But it will never part…


WE HAD A WONDERFUL GRANDFATHER — UNKNOWN

We had a wonderful grandfather,

One who never really grew old;

His smile was made of sunshine,

And his heart was solid gold;

His eyes were as bright as shining stars,

And in his cheeks fair roses you see.

We had a wonderful grandfather,

And that’s the way it will always be,

But take heed, because

He’s still keeping an eye on all of us,

So let’s make sure

He will like what he sees


OUR GRANDDAD — UNKNOWN

It broke our hearts to lose you,

But you never went alone,

For a part of us went with you,

The day god took you home.

A million times we missed you,

A million times we cried,

If love could have saved you,

You never would have died.

To the grave you travel,

Our flowers placed with care,

No-one knows the heartache,

as we turn to leave you there.

Read the rest of the poem here.

MY LOVING GRANDMOTHER — NIVEDEETA PEREIRA

When I had no shoulder to lean on,

And my eyes were filled with tears.

I had my Nana to count on,

to drive away my fears.

Despite all the wrong I’d done,

When the light I couldn’t see,

Nana was my shining sun,

who gently consoled me.

She always encouraged and inspired me,

to follow my every dream,

she’d tell me that I was not alone,

cause she was my team. 

Read the rest of the poem here.


God Saw You Getting Tired — Unknown

God saw you getting tired

and a cure was not to be

so he put his arms around you

and whispered,


Come to Me.

With tearful eyes we watch you

and saw you pass away

and although we loved you dearly

we could not make you stay.

A Golden heart stopped beating

hard working hands at rest.

God broke our hearts to prove us

he only takes the best.

Inspirational Quotes

We gathered a collection of quotes to honor grandparents and remember the love they gave:

“Grandparents are a delightful blend of laughter, caring deeds, wonderful stories, and love.” — Unknown

“Between the earth and the sky above, nothing can match a grandmother’s love.” — Unknown

“Grandparents hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever.” — Unknown 

“Sometimes our grandmas and grandpas are like grand-angels.” — Lexie Saige

“Grandparents make the world a little softer, a little kinder, a little warmer.” — Unknown 

“There’s nothing more wonderful than the love and guidance a grandparent can give his or her grandchild.” — Edward Fays 

“My grandmother once said that grief is the price we pay for love.” ­— Prince William

“Some of the world’s best educators are grandparents.” — Charles W. Shedd

“A garden of love grows in a grandmother’s heart.” — Unknown

“A grandfather is someone with silver in his hair and gold in his heart.” — Unknown

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